Alcoholics dating custody
I was sucked into the vortex, and like a vampire, my emotions were sucked dry. Divorcing someone like that is almost worse than being married to them. Kids bind you forever; so even though we need to walk away from the insanity, we can’t ever fully walk away; and in fact, a divorce just brings all the insanity up to the surface. The intensity of a relationship with someone who has substance abuse issues, as well as other personality disorder traits, is much like living in a fire pit.
I spent hours a day trying to get him to be on the same page as me. At times, it has felt like I was married to Satan himself. The light is too bright, the heat is too much to bear, and once you’re in, it’s very difficult to get out. There will be scars and reminders of the life you just left, but scars are evidence you survived something. I am still early in the process of the divorce, and I know there are many breathless days ahead of me, but I have stepped away from the fire, allowing the pain of that love to die with the fire.
We talked, we laughed, our hands brushed against each other, and the sparks flew. When I got married, I did so believing that I would have a partner. I believed I was marrying someone who wanted the same things I wanted. Marrying an alcoholic with narcissistic personality traits sets you up for a lifetime of frustration, loneliness, and pain.
We’d had a double date and enjoyed each other’s company. However, if the shoe fits, sometimes a person just has to wear it, whether they want to or not. Someone who loved me for me, not what I could do for him.
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But 11 states and the District of Columbia still allow you to plead and prove fault in a divorce. A fault divorce may be obtained without the long waiting period required in some states for no-fault divorces. However, I have come to understand that it is simply not about me. I’d just come from a failed marriage and this felt like an answer to prayer. Who was ready to support me and his children in life. I took many of the things he did and said personally for a long time, and still struggle with the pain it has caused me and that it will inevitably cause my children.I have happily represented many outstanding recovering alcoholic parents in family court and some of these parents have obtained custody of their children and done a fantastic job raising them. The alcoholic parents whose representation I considered to be successful were in recovery and were committed to not drinking.In too many cases I have observed alcoholic parents who were not in recovery destroy their custody case (and their relationship with their children) by continuing to drink.