Dating and romance throughout life
The survey found that dating in America is, indeed, affected by online matchmaking activity.
But in analyzing our findings, we discovered another story: Large numbers of single Americans are not actively looking for relationships and even significant numbers of those looking for partners are not that active on the dating scene.
About half (49%) had been on no more than one date in the previous three months.
These findings emerge from a national survey conducted last fall by the Pew Internet & American Life Project looking at the place of online dating in the larger picture of relationships in America.
This is especially true for women, for those who have been widowed or divorced, and for older singles.
Yet even among the youngest adults, the zest for romance is somewhat muted: 38% of singles ages 18-29 say they are not currently looking for a romantic partner, compared to 22% in that age cohort who are looking for partners. Most relationship-seeking singles say it is difficult to meet people in their towns.
Only 16% of single Americans say they are hunting for a partner.
If you knew how to be romantic when you were dating, you could do it again. You’ll be surprised to see how romantic a conversation can be. If you find your mind wandering to the stack of papers on your desk at work, bring your thoughts back to each other. Just like during meditation, it’s a mind exercise that might need a little retraining but it will happen. Starting from the tiniest thought, it grows until it’s so big it’s the only thing you see when you look at the other person. The person you couldn’t live without for even five minutes? You just have to look a little harder now to see them. Once you get comfy, the negative side of the trait shows its unattractive side.At first glance, the survey results suggest ample targets for Cupid among American adults.The table below shows that while the majority of American adults (56% or 113 million people) are not in the dating market (they are married or living as married), the number of potential romance-seekers is still huge.Most young singles in America do not describe themselves as actively looking for romantic partners.Even those who are seeking relationships are not dating frequently.