Dating older women in japan
Older Japanese have become more at ease with the Internet, while the numbers of people who have never married or who divorce, often after decades of marriage, is on the rise.“With an increase in the divorce rate and more and more people accepting second marriages, that has definitely changed,” said James Farrer, a sociology professor at Sophia University in Tokyo.“People in their 20s and 30s think it’s important to find their own happiness, so they can understand their parents wanting to do the same,” said Junichi Ikeda, president of online marriage consultancy “Ai Senior”, or “Senior Love”. Still, an image of online dating services as shady fronts for sleazy one-night stands and prostitution lingers.“I haven’t told my children because I think it’s best to meet someone naturally,” said member Naomi, a 52-year-old divorcee who signed up in February.REUTERS/Toru Hanai "/Yoji Kawamura, 65, looks at his page on Tokyo in this picture taken April 7, 2008.REUTERS/Toru Hanai That’s what Yoji Kawamura figured after retiring at the age of 62 and deciding that part-time work and his new hobbies of photography and computers weren’t enough to fill his days.
For foreign women it’s a completely different story.
“I think there is a cultural change in the way these things are talked about in the media,” he added.
“There is a sense that older people are sexual, and it’s legitimate to talk about it.” Adult children who once expected to live with their parents and discouraged them from remarrying are also more supportive.
“That may be an old-fashioned way of thinking, but the image of dating sites isn’t very good.” Such concerns are one reason why women make up only 40 percent of members in Japan compared with 50 percent in the United States, Kuwano said. “They are afraid that using the Internet to find someone makes them look like losers,” he said.
Online or off, the search for love can still be fraught with obstacles, including the potential for mismatched priorities.