Dating the divorced
For the past 11 years, I've lived in a small studio apartment that I initially thought of as a temporary place to park until I bought a brownstone. Divorced dads have real, grown-up responsibilities. They've likely lived in fully decorated homes, even if they don't at the moment due to a post-divorce transition.
They know how to buy a car, stock a fridge, and what it's like to be an adult.
And while divorced dads have legitimate childcare responsibilities, it can sometimes feel like they're using their kids as an excuse to keep me at a distance, or end the relationship altogether.
In the past year alone, I've had two guys tell me that between their demanding jobs and their children, they didn't have time for a relationship.
As someone who's had my share of difficulties, I relate best to people who've had some struggles in their lives and grappled with deeper issues.If you're single and dating, once you hit your mid-30s you start to notice more and more divorced dads on Tinder, Ok Cupid, and IRL.By 40, what was once few and far between is now your main dating demographic.The first lived out of town — at the beginning of January, we were talking about him planning a trip to visit me in New York later that month.He then told me that with his son's hockey schedule, the earliest he could get to New York was April, and he'd decided that his visit — and dating me — wasn't going to work after all.